Sons roomie had a seizure while they were home last week. My son called 911 and they took him to ER.
Roomie missed walking in graduation last week bc of the concerns post seizure (very possible to have another and he was very uneasy risking it).
They found a mass on his brain that needs removing and is the likely cause of the seizure. Apparently it is assumed to be very unlikely to be cancerous. Recovery will be rough. Multiple months. Time will tell if the mass was affecting the brain in such a way that the 18 month old bipolar diagnosis is related to the mass.
That’s really scary, but seems like a positive prognosis, so that’s good news. Should make for a hell of a story when he is older. I hope he has family and friends around to help with the recovery.
Sounds like he had the seizure at an ideal time - at home with someone to get help, not driving, not in the shower or bath. I’m sure in his situation I would be replaying over and over how much worse it could have been.
Theres a ton that was a “best case” for suffering the episode. Once he has distance and health from the procedure and recovery i bet it will be discussed more.
A side sad thought - his dad (a v good friend of mine) is prone to saying dumbass shit about what he hopes this kid is focused on (or at least looking forward to). No, you moron, your son is not concerned w getting a job after graduation but instead is more focused on the upcoming brain surgery. And the fear that comes from that and the inability to drive for 6 months. And being bipolar. Wtf, how do you not see it that way?
Not saying the dad isn’t a dumbass in his own right, but he might also be scared about brain tumor and surgery for his kid, so he minimizes the consequences to avoid facing them.
In surgery now to remove the mass. they believe it could have been there 10 yrs or more based on the type and size. concerns that they may not be able to get it all given the size as they need to play carefully with the parts of the brain that are nearby.
We were afraid that one of our dogs was having seizures, turned out it was fainting due to a heart condition. It’s happening less frequently now that he’s on meds but we just have to face the fact that he probably doesn’t have much time left…
Our dog is also awake despite the fainting. It’s tough for vets to tell the difference between the two, but the cardiology evidence strongly supports that it’s due to lack of oxygen from having an enlarged heart, and it typically happens when he’s barking at the UPS guy or otherwise excited. Plus, it is rare for dogs to develop epilepsy at an old age - if it were a seizure then it would likely be due to a brain tumor, but checking for that would be very invasive, risky and expensive.
ah, this dog was young when it started happening and it isn’t when he’s excited. he’ll just be sitting there calmly and have a seizure. He’s a hyper dog who loves to play tug of war (which shakes his head a ton) and bark at UPS guys, but doesn’t seem to happen when he’s doing those things.
i think he went to the vet a few years ago and i don’t think they found a reason for it.
Well the exact same thing happened again this month. I think I’m just not going to make an effort anymore with this particular group, because as trivial as it seems, I feel really shitty about it and I don’t want to feel like this for no reason.
Odds are that everyone has more or less the same conflicts as last month, and the decision-making was similar. But yeah, sounds like it’s not worth it to try to coordinate with them.
You could also, next time, respond, “Any day is fine.” And when it coincidentally is not fine, respond, “oh, something came up.”
I do wonder why they invite you and then specifically pick the date that you are not available, if that is what is actually happening. You might need to document the number of times this happened, as well as the number of times it didn’t happen.
Or, fuck 'em.
Or, find the person in charge of picking the date, and fuck 'em.
Or, put yourself in their shoes, and determine how you would choose the date, based on all of the “cannot make it” responses. My guess, assuming some Occam, is that your cannot-make date has the fewest cannot-make responses, while the others have more.
I believe it’s a bit more nuanced than that. I believe there is a hierarchy of the respondents. There are a small number whose missed presence could not be tolerated, so if only one date works for them, that is the day, assuming it also works for many.
I am not a high ranking member of this group, so my response is really not even a consideration, and thus I think it is good advice to stop responding altogether and if the date works, fantastic. If not, oh well.
This is often the case. I poll people for when to schedule an event. First, if the venue isn’t available, that date won’t work, no matter who among the invitees can make it. And i may not know what dates work for the venue when i send out the poll. Next I’m aware that if Steve can’t come I’ll lose another half dozen people. But if Jan can’t come, oh well, that’s too bad. In the unlikely event that everything was equal except for Jan’s availability, i would try to accommodate her. But in fact, once i balance the venue and Steve, i may be down to one possible date.
(and i left out that Andi and 5 if their friends are not individually critical, but they all have similar time constraints, and i want to accommodate them, even before Steve. It’s just complicated.)
