Stupid autocorrect
One night in Oslo?
Be on the lookout for the English words:
Julie Andrews (shouldnât it be Yul Brynner?)
get tight (Get Thaiâd?)
bar ⌠temple ⌠massagestudio
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I wonder if Tiger Woods goes shopping at Target on Sundays.
We have a 10 year old staying with us for a week. His foster mom says he is a terror, and she needs a break. Iâm not discounting her experiences, but I think some of their issues might just be differences in personality. He is used to having screens at home, his foster mom doesnât allow screens. She even got rid of her OWN PHONE so he couldnât have access to a screen. She doesnât let him stay up past 9 even on weekends, makes him eat vegetables with every meal, etc.
One of the things they tell us when getting certified as foster parents is that a child coming into your home needs to ease into it. So itâs very reasonable to have different rules for foster kids than your own kids (her daughter is 23 and no longer in her home, so the only kids there are foster kids - this boy and his sister). That might mean letting them eat potato chips for every meal while they adjust to being in a foreign place, if they ate mostly potato chips at their own home.
They also tell us that love and boundaries wonât âfixâ trauma, and these kids will act out, simply because of their situation.
Anyhow, this kid is having a great time at our house, and has been a normal ten year old kid. Heâs sweet and funny and loves animals. He and my husband really get along well, and he has made friends with both our sons. Iâm sure if this was a permanent placement for him, the honeymoon period would end and he would probably act out some. But I feel for this kid. I wonder if living in our house, with snacks and screens and lots of fun down time, is going to make going back even worse for the foster mom.
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I have to go back to work in five days, after eight weeks off. Sad.
Iâm going to go take a disappointment nap now.
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I donât quite recall what Lindsay Lohan looked like precisely in 2004, given that she seemed to age from 12 to 23 to 57 in about 3 calendar years.
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My neighbour was raking his yard this past weekend, and I was thinking âthatâs a bit earlyâ. Itâs snowed two days since then lol.
Is there any mechanism to say âyâknow what⌠the first placement wasnât that great. Letâs try this second placement insteadâ?
I assume all parties would need to agree to it, which wonât always be the case but might sometimes be.
If Original Foster Mom is at her wits end with him she might do better with a different kid. Maybe an infant or toddler. Youâd hate to see OFM burn out and stop fostering altogether when so many kids need foster care.
And itâs not a diss on OFM. Some people click more than others. Thatâs a completely normal aspect of human existence.
An acquaintance of mine had to essentially âgive backâ a kid that she and her husband adopted. It just wasnât working. He was constantly violent (they have 5 other kids, two with physical limitations, so this is an especially big deal) and he constantly said he hated them.
He went to another family for respite care and clicked with them and after the first adoption was rescinded (or however it works) the second family adopted him and itâs working out as well as can be hoped.
My acquaintance and her husband are, from what I can tell, fantastic parents. I donât think it was them. I think it was a little bit the kid and a little bit being an only child vs one of 6 kids, a little bit the timing of everything, and a little bit just random stuff.
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It is definitely possible, and if this kid didnât have a sister in care, I would probably offer. ButâŚwe do not have the space, legally, for two kids, especially since one is a girl (because of the laws about ages of mixed gender sleeping arrangements). And Iâm not going to ask to split them up. If the state decided to split them up and we had space, we would take him, but theyâd try to find a home for both of them first, as they should.
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Wife and I were walking the dogs in a nearby park when I noticed it was absolutely filled with geese poopâŚturns out âtheyâ aerated the lawn and in doing so left goose-poop-looking wads of dirt everywhere.
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Well, if anything, it will demonstrate to the other 5 what happens if they donât behave.
I hate it when lawns have been air-raided by geese.
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Makes total sense.
You joke, but itâs a big problem for the 5 kids, especially the other two who were also adopted. They understandably need LOTS of reassurance that this isnât the case and that giving back their brother was a VERY extreme and exceptional circumstance.
The other 5 kids all needed counseling to deal with all of the feels they were having (relief, guilt over feeling relief, fear, concern for the no-longer-brother, concern for their other family members, lots of anger, etc.)
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My joke was poor taste. I cannot even imagine the emotions involved here. I have had 2 adoptions in my extended family and each went poorly (with lifelong effects), and neither were even remotely in this kind of ballpark.
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Itâs ok, itâs one of those âfunny, butâŚâ things. I wasnât offended or anything.
I donated to a charity that supported her in the (international) adoption, so I learned more about the whole thing than I otherwise might have and it was quite the saga⌠not all of which Iâve shared. (They were understandably very worried that the people who had donated money to defray the expense would be upset. Personally I felt nothing but compassion, but I can certainly understand their concern.)
A classmate of mine going back to elementary school.
While you canât expect everyone to be understanding, I think most people would rationalize âI gave the money to help a kid get adopted, the kid still got adoptedâ rather than âI gave money to the family so the family could do something nice and they didnât succeedâ.
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Yeah , itâs not like it was a âdestination adoptionâ where you could âhelp fund my scuba adventureâŚyou know, while weâre in the neighborhoodâŚI mean how often am I going to get to go traveling now that weâre parents?â
Just got messaged this on Discord in one of the student servers:
Iâm having a party Tmrw night. Feel free to bring some old man life advice.
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