My daughter is a Swiftie.
I find her songs are very catchy and the lyrics, while not exactly literary masterpieces, are more compelling than many of her contemporaries. (Or maybe really more than many of the artists from the 80s and 90s whose lyrics I am more familiar with.)
She doesn’t have the best voice I’ve ever heard, but FAR from the worst.
In most U.S. jurisdictions I bet the ultimate solution would be that they each get one.
My dad knew the husband a divorced couple who had season tickets to the Bengals. They kept the season tickets for years after the divorce and split up the season… he got half the home games and she got half. And they split the post season games too.
But when the Bengals went to the Super Bowl in 1989 they could not agree who would get the tickets. So they each got one and sat together. I think legally each of them got one of the seats but they’d normally agree on how to share them each season. But when they can’t agree… he has his and she has hers.
I don’t know if they were still around for the 2022 Super Bowl or what happened there.
Seems that “each gets one” is the best settlement there.
Or they’re auctioned off and they split the net proceeds.
“Split both tickets in half.”
“No, just let him have both of them!!”
“Give both of them to her, for she is the true Swiftie.”
Insurers say bear that damaged luxury cars was actually a person in a costume
My favorite quote from the article:
The department had a biologist from the California Department of Fish and Wildlife review the three videos, who concluded it was “clearly a human in a bear suit,” the insurance department said.
So just this week, Taylor’s Tiny Desk Concert popped up in my feed and I figured why not? I can name maybe two of her songs, three if you count Exile, her duet with Bon Iver. And I had pretty much the same sentiment, she sings pretty well and seems relatable. And while her lyrics aren’t on par with Bob Dylan, she’s a pop star, and by that metric I think she writes great songs. Not quite my jam, but I get why people like her. Maybe next time she’s in Lawrence I’ll see if I can get an autograph!
That’s what a friend who has a swifty daughter told me: she’s an ok singer but a great song writer. I imagine the production value in her concerts is pretty high too.
I only have sons (who don’t care about pop music at all anyway), so I know little to nothing about her.
You are lucky for the time being.
Swift is a great role model too. She’s teaching young.women to be self confident and outgoing.
My spouse and I saw the eras movie in theatre. Full of 12-16 to girls, dancing in the aisles, singing, having fun, and swapping bracelets with strangers. 100% the way it should be.
i like her, just don’t like her music.
found it bland and basically one tempo
nothing got me moving or humming
That’s really interesting. I would imagine if you’re a big football fan, no matter how messy the divorce is, that’s a pretty easy decision.
Personally, I’ve found that division of assets in a divorce is pretty easy if you think your ex has horrible taste.
This was basically mine. He was constantly trying to decorate our house like it was a middle school boy’s bedroom.
Actually I had never really given it any thought. The only stuff I got out of that divorce were the things that were obviously mine (clothing, toiletries, and stuff I had before the marriage, like childhood crap), and the kitchen table that sat four. He got the beds, the couches, the dining room table, everything in the home office, all the tv’s, the computer, the gaming systems, everything. Because he stayed in the house while it was selling and I moved out, and then when it sold the divorce was already over. Man. It never even occurred to me to try to fight for that stuff…
you aren’t fighting for that stuff, you are fighting for the value of that stuff.
Let him keep it, just get paid for half its value
I didn’t get paid for that either! I was a much roll over and take it kind of person 12 years ago, I guess.
STBX probably racked up $1,000 in attorney fees between the three attorneys (his, mine, and ours) when he falsely accused me of taking his bathmat.
As “proof” of my alleged malfeasance he took a photo of the bathroom floor after I’d left… clearly showing in the photo he took was the precise bath mat he accused me of taking. I think it was a $15 bath mat at Costco. The photo he took to demonstrate my guilt proved my innocence. 
But of course I had to pay half the attorney fees. So the $15 bath mat cost me $500 and I didn’t even get to keep it.
Yes, I didn’t want to deal with paying my attorney to fight on certain things, so I gave in on a lot of stuff back then. Also he didn’t want the divorce and I did, so lots of guilt as well. Of course by the end of the process, a year later, his girlfriend had moved into our house, so I felt a lot less guilt by then (but the paperwork was already done, so…nothing to be done).
Well in aggregate my share of the attorney fees to divide our stuff was less than the value of what I ended up with, and he was challenging some of my non-marital items in addition to the marital ones.
He ended up bullying his way to obtaining my non-marital vacuum cleaner. I protested that it had been mine before we got married. Can I prove it with the receipt? Well, no, probably not. So it went into the pool of jointly owned “stuff” and he ended up with it.
As I was packing I happened upon the receipt proving that it should have been mine.
Congratulations STBX… you bamboozled me out of an 18 year old vacuum cleaner. Well done!
My new house has central vac, so I don’t even need it.
It’s a strange process. We literally made a list of every single item that was jointly owned, from the bedroom set to the kitchen table to the planter with a dead plant inside. We flipped a coin. He won so he got to pick first.
He picked the Waterford crystal. I picked the leather sofas, he picked the big screen TV, I picked the piano, etc.
It was SO unbelievably stressful! You know how long I obsessed over the bedroom set before buying it? Or the carpet shampooer or the dehumidifier? Suddenly you’ve got 30 seconds to decide “would I rather have the recliner or the snow blower?”
We both made some strategic errors, I think, that probably roughly offset.