i think if u grew up with american siblings, this style of banter will be natural for you. But if you’re asian, and if u had said anything even remotely insulting to you elder sibling, you’d get smacked. So this style of banter is really not natural for asians imo
Be glad you aren’t in Mexico then 
Mexican humor is all about mockery. The closer you know someone the harder the mocking.
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i would guess there’s not many mexican-asian friendships
Yeah, maybe that’s the story, but it feels like it’s not to everyone and I’m not sure how appropriate banter is to subordinates, especially to only a few of them. If this were from a colleague, and he talked that way to everyone, it would be different.
just ignore it and resolve to always be an outsider. I do. It works!
I am a sarcastic guy, I banter up, I banter down, I banter sideways.
If I crossed a line and thought I hurt someone’s feelings, it would really bother me.
my boss does it with his direct reports, though we are all a fairly homogeneous group and give as good as we get
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have u thought that maybe it’s not to everyone because those specific people said something to him?
Depends on the relationship you want. I WANT banter with my bosses and my direct reports. I go out of my way to try and cultivate that closeness. But I also am very much on the side of disliking the stiff “professional” feel. My wife is completely on the other side. She is super professional and stiff and likes the formal boundary relationship. To each their own on what they want.
But I would want any direct report letting me know if they were uncomfortable - I would make a note to keep that particular relationship different. Again, I don’t know your boss, but I’ll plug just bringing it up instead of suffering in silence. If he ignores it, gives you another data point to get another job. It could also improve things for you.
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Also, the surprising thing is he started right away, no getting to know you phase, just straight into the joke/insults.
he’s trying to measure u up. Ignore him long enough and he’ll prob stop
I very much doubt it, since he leaves most other people alone, and I can’t imagine they all said something to him, just knowing their personalities.
maybe those people just ignored him long enough
also means he probably likes you (not sexually or anything)
Are they more outgoing and you are more quiet? He may doing it as his way to try and get you out of your shell a bit.
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ok, that’s all i got
But again, all we got are guesses. Just talk to the guy lol
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one last thing, just smile (like you’re humored) when he says something lightly insulting. do that enough times and it will prob stop
The bolded is kind of funny. I might joke about a response like that too.
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Is it possible your manager is in this thread?
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Most of the advice I’m reading here is to get the new manager fired or moved somewhere else.
So, self-fulfilling?
My take: he’s into you. He teases, pulls your hair, punches you in the arm. All signs of an intense love.
Question: he is seven years old, right?