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Seems like a normal sarcastic comment,. Not intended to be taken literally
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As a one-off? I’d ignore it. If you get a couple more? I’d call it out. I can get where they’re coming from with the comment, but also probably not something I’d start off with without pointedly saying this is a joke, I don’t mean anything by it in front of that comment.
Now, if you end up in a meeting with others who know you and you make a joke that everyone else understands and people laugh, and he doesn’t laugh and remarks “I don’t know if you’re trying to be funny, or you’re just being a dick,” … well, call a recruiter and find a new place.
Do we need a sarcasm sign?
The third one is funny
Guy sounds like he likes to make jokes and sarcastic remarks. It’s his personality. I’d probably like working for him. But if you have a hard time with sarcasm or are a serious person it may be hard. Definitely not personal
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The “wow you must suck to work with” line of humor is definitely a joke I would make…to someone I’m already friendly with. Not someone I don’t know yet.
My manager definitely WOULD make that kind of weird joke. He’s a weird guy with an offbeat sense of humor. I’ve learned to deal with it. Every once in a while I think he realizes he crosses a line and apologizes, but he will always be odd and I have learned to accept it.
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What is PYD?
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is english not your first language? could be a cultural thing
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Obviously only you know this situation. You shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable at work, and if you do, you owe it to yourself and others to change things. Shouldn’t have to fall on you, but clearly no one else is going to say anything.
You can choose to bring it up, either to him (preferable), to HR (acceptable), or to his boss (also acceptable but lacking courage), or you can learn to live with it. Sucks, but that’s what it is.
No matter what you choose to do, start documenting. Especially if it’s targeted at minorities. Make your case, in case of retaliation.
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Depends. Are you the only minority and it is at you? Or are there 3 and they
seem to be exclusively minorities targeted?
If he truly demeans your work in front of others, or it reflects in your review, then say something to him. It the sarcasm take on an offensive edge to your “group”, then say something.
And like I told my daughter when she had management issues,document everything, dated and detailed. And if it does get out of hand you have a record
But imo everything you described is a sarcastic guy who might be getting over familiar too soon
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It’s usually me and a few times others, but I don’t know how he talks in private to others.
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Ninjad
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Agreed with the above.
Since I’m someone who likely would make any of those comments you listed, I’ll add that he probably (at least from the little snippets posted here) doesn’t realize how it is impacting you, so the conversation may be a shock to him.
Map out the conversation to have it go easier, using a guide like this-
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Thanks, that’s a good template.
I get the feeling though that he does do it to get a reaction, and not a ha-ha one. I may be imagining it but I don’t think so. More like a bit of aggression wrapped in a smile.
If he is doing it intentionally, it is probably a power move for him. And you addressing it directly will be very disarming. He will probably be defensive, dismissive and/or crack some more awkward jokes in that case.
If he isn’t doing it intentionally, he will likely be taken by surprise by the directness, but hopefully will appreciate the feedback. Too often managers don’t get good feedback from their reports.
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Yes I would agree that it seems to be at least partly a power move. I’m guessing the reaction would be dismissive.
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You have a company HR video on harrassment in the workplace? Going to guess your manager has had to watch it / has to watch it shortly / has had to watch something similar in other companies. If what’s going on is covered in those videos, then there’s a potential problem.
Thinking about it more, maybe he read a blog post from a company I used to work at titled “How to Have An Awkward Conversation” and he’s trying to put that title into practice whenever he can.
Thinking about it, it seems to be young minorities. He can’t very well do this to people more established in their role no matter their status, but I don’t see him teasing young non minorities that often if at all.