Is this a normal comment

[An_actuary]

We started reporting to him all at the same time.

[Chewbacca]

also means he probably likes you (not sexually or anything)

[MayanActuary]

Are they more outgoing and you are more quiet? He may doing it as his way to try and get you out of your shell a bit.

[Chewbacca]

ok, that’s all i got

[MayanActuary]

But again, all we got are guesses. Just talk to the guy lol

[Chewbacca]

one last thing, just smile (like you’re humored) when he says something lightly insulting. do that enough times and it will prob stop

[ArthurItas]

@An_actuary

Or the time he asked me in a meeting whether I drink, and I said, (remembering when someone had brought beer into work) “not at work”, meaning , not at work events, so he “joked” people should watch out for me getting drunk or similar.

The bolded is kind of funny. I might joke about a response like that too.

[knoath]

Is it possible your manager is in this thread?

[dr_t_non-fan]

Most of the advice I’m reading here is to get the new manager fired or moved somewhere else.

So, self-fulfilling?

My take: he’s into you. He teases, pulls your hair, punches you in the arm. All signs of an intense love.
Question: he is seven years old, right?

[Ted_Hoffman]

Now I want to start a thread titled “is this a normal response?” talking about how a direct report of mine doesn’t get my jokes and takes everything really seriously.

[Tiffany]

@dr_t_non-fan

Most of the advice I’m reading here is to get the new manager fired or moved somewhere else.

I was more advocating to move oneself as opposed to getting the manager moved.

[dr_t_non-fan]

I saw that one. Hence the “most” comment.

But really, do you want this poster to move on to somewhere else and cause turnover at the manager level??

(I kid because I love.)

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@dr_t_non-fan

(I kid because I love.)

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[NormalDan]

Quick, delete this post and do it!

[NormalDan]

@An_actuary

Also, the surprising thing is he started right away, no getting to know you phase, just straight into the joke/insults.

@An_actuary

I very much doubt it, since he leaves most other people alone, and I can’t imagine they all said something to him, just knowing their personalities.

@An_actuary

We started reporting to him all at the same time.

I don’t mean this to be overly blunt but you sound like you’re eager to conclude your manager is out to get you. Seriously, just talk to him.

[dr_t_non-fan]

I apologize to you, NA, for my insensitive, jerky remarks in that other thread.

[Ted_Hoffman]

I really need an alt named something like Observant Manager for things like that.

Yes, I’m giving away an incredible, potentially hilarious idea here. Even doing it for free.

[An_actuary]

@NormalDan

@An_actuary

Also, the surprising thing is he started right away, no getting to know you phase, just straight into the joke/insults.

@An_actuary

he leaves most other people alone

@An_actuary

We started reporting to him all at the same time.

I don’t mean this to be overly blunt but you sound like you’re eager to conclude …

These are all factual statements, not conclusions.

[NormalDan]

Clearly they’re your impressions of experiences you’ve had, rather than black and white facts.

[dr_t_non-fan]

Yes, he is picking on you.
What is your response to this?
Do you laugh along?
Do you get noticeably pissed?
Do you react in any way?

Because that is what he wants: a reaction. He can’t help it, that’s just who he is, but it’s not an excuse. Bad childhood, I suspect, but I’m not that kind of doctor (or any kind). Perhaps a middle child. You should ask him if he is.

You have several options here:

1. Make a “federal case out of it” by whining to HR.
2. No reaction at all. Just a lot of uncomfortable silence. Your relationship is not special enough to enjoy comfortable silences.
3. Talk to him privately (in Leadership 101, a good leader praises publicly, and criticizes privately) about it. You don’t appreciate it, it gives others a poor impression of you, etc.