My kids were a bit older at my FIL’s funeral. I was the on deck parent for keeping them settled, but the service was relatively short, and then there was a break to walk to the burial site. As far questions to consider, I agree with the other posters on their ability to not be disruptive, as well as how distressing it might be for them around those who are mourning. Another consideration would be any social gathering, like a wake. I’d be more inclined to have kids attend that than the funeral service, especially if greater family gatherings are unusual.
I probably got some library books about death to talk about death and grief in general. My FIL died a week before we were scheduled to fly out for a visit, so it was a direct impact.
Wishing you and your family peace and comfort in your grief.
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Condolences to you and your family but 100 is a pretty darn good run.
My kids were older when it first happened in our family but I’d say it depends how you feel your kids will take it. I think this is probably a good time for the 4.5 year old to get introduced but I doubt the 2.5 year old is going to have many lasting memories one way of the other.
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So my daughter and her husband bought a townhouse a few years back. Another couple own the other half (side by side units, common wall). The other couple is looking to sell and my daughter and her husband are thinking about making an offer. They could really use the space. We have been raising items for them to research and I thought I’d throw this out to the GOA for things they should be looking out for or anything else.
We have already identified looking into the ability to convert 2 properties into one. Tax issues, utilities, house numbers, etc. are covered. They are thinking about putting a couple doors in off of stairways to be able to move between the two units. Not sure if there are duplicate items like stoves or furnaces, if they will run into trouble rejoining the units.
Any other thoughts welcome. They were invited to look at the house this weekend so they may be the first ones to act.
Thanks. They are not part of an HOA.
Make sure the zoning laws allow for the conversion.
Check how the tax records are setup, they are currently two parcels in the tax rolls, are they looking to make it one property? What will that do to the tax base? How easy is it to combine them?
Can they get a feasibility study on what it would take to combine the two units and what the cost estimate would be before placing an offer for the other unit? I assume you are talkng about opening some walls and repurposing some of the overlap space, like you don’t need dual kitchens but some duplicating might be needed to avoid cost like they the water heater and furnace that service the other unit. Do they want to consolidate or to a single system that would cover both combined units. And while they don’t need two kitchens, they might want a bigger one in the expansion or something like that.
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We just turned my son’s car seat forward and he’s been saying “green means go”, “red means stop”. He asked what the yellow light meant and our 4 y/o answered “it means speed up real fast before it turns red”. We’re teaching these kids well.
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I don’t. Does he also drive aggressively?
great movie - watch it (Roku, TUBI)
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my daughter is 2nd yr university. when she was HS sr she was captain of the cross country and track teams. really cared for and gave attention to the younger girls on the team, some of whom were in middle school still.
one of those girls is now a 9th grader and texts my kid to check in and say hi. (she has her own phone now. in middle school she’d text from her dad’s phone.) last week she asked my kid to review an essay she had written. today they are going to lunch (both on spring break). It’s nice to see my kid’s willingness to still mentor this other girl
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Your daughter has solid character. I imagine that didn’t come from nowhere!
Every time I go into an airplane bathroom I wonder how I managed changing a diaper or assisting a 3 year old in that tight of quarters.
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Follow up. Other kid got her learner’s permit Friday. Asked my kid when she turned 21. Said bc when daughter is 21 she can legally be the adult who helps her learn to drive. (the “21” question ended so sweetly)
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My son’s school has been on lockdown since 12:30 today. The school finally contacted us about this situation at 2:15.
The incident that caused the lockdown happened across the street from the school, not inside it, but my husband showed up at 2:00 for pickup (they release at 2:30 but parking is sparse so he gets there early) to closed roads and SWAT teams. It’s frustrating to not be notified of these things. Their policy is to focus on the school safety protocols, and they don’t notify parents until the situation has resolved. Kids don’t have access to their phones during the day, which means we have no ability to know what’s going on with our kid.
I understand the need for a policy like that, but there has to be a better way.
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Yeah that would wind me up. My mind would immediately go to Texas where parents were ready to get in there to rescue their kid when the police wouldn’t.
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thats scary and frustrating.
school admin are (in those situations) dealing with a LOT. staff for lockdown procedures and police mostly, coordinating and confirming. but the district should have a comms person who can post whatever update is needed faster than what you describe. before final resolution seems possible. again, the comms team should handle that while the admin (whose names are signed to the communications) are working out the hard stuff.
but then, some updates like “we are on lockdown bc a swat team is storming the house across the street” are terrible to hear and the last thing a situation like that needs is…people swarming into the scene (as @NormalDan hinted).
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Helped the younger son dye the milk green for tomorrow. He’s very excited for the reaction tomorrow from his dad and brother.
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I know my son is on the spectrum. I don’t have a diagnosis for him, I just know. How? Reasons like this:
I asked if he wanted to go out to buy a card for his friend’s birthday party tomorrow, or stay home and make one. He said, “well, home is where the heart is!”
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13yo son didn’t do great on an algebra test a couple weeks ago. The topic was inequalities and linear equations. He got a 50%. He didn’t study, and didn’t understand the expectations (no calculator).
Found out today that a large group of students collaborated to cheat. My son, thankfully, was not one of them (as evidenced by his grade…). So the entire class has to retake the test. I really hope he can do better this time - and lots of preparation for it will be a given.
I’m not sure what other punishments will be given for the cheaters. Hopefully something more than just the test retake.
He is so smart, but thinks anything higher than a C in the class is a waste of effort.
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