My kids were a bit older at my FIL’s funeral. I was the on deck parent for keeping them settled, but the service was relatively short, and then there was a break to walk to the burial site. As far questions to consider, I agree with the other posters on their ability to not be disruptive, as well as how distressing it might be for them around those who are mourning. Another consideration would be any social gathering, like a wake. I’d be more inclined to have kids attend that than the funeral service, especially if greater family gatherings are unusual.
I probably got some library books about death to talk about death and grief in general. My FIL died a week before we were scheduled to fly out for a visit, so it was a direct impact.
Wishing you and your family peace and comfort in your grief.
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Condolences to you and your family but 100 is a pretty darn good run.
My kids were older when it first happened in our family but I’d say it depends how you feel your kids will take it. I think this is probably a good time for the 4.5 year old to get introduced but I doubt the 2.5 year old is going to have many lasting memories one way of the other.
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So my daughter and her husband bought a townhouse a few years back. Another couple own the other half (side by side units, common wall). The other couple is looking to sell and my daughter and her husband are thinking about making an offer. They could really use the space. We have been raising items for them to research and I thought I’d throw this out to the GOA for things they should be looking out for or anything else.
We have already identified looking into the ability to convert 2 properties into one. Tax issues, utilities, house numbers, etc. are covered. They are thinking about putting a couple doors in off of stairways to be able to move between the two units. Not sure if there are duplicate items like stoves or furnaces, if they will run into trouble rejoining the units.
Any other thoughts welcome. They were invited to look at the house this weekend so they may be the first ones to act.
Thanks. They are not part of an HOA.
Make sure the zoning laws allow for the conversion.
Check how the tax records are setup, they are currently two parcels in the tax rolls, are they looking to make it one property? What will that do to the tax base? How easy is it to combine them?
Can they get a feasibility study on what it would take to combine the two units and what the cost estimate would be before placing an offer for the other unit? I assume you are talkng about opening some walls and repurposing some of the overlap space, like you don’t need dual kitchens but some duplicating might be needed to avoid cost like they the water heater and furnace that service the other unit. Do they want to consolidate or to a single system that would cover both combined units. And while they don’t need two kitchens, they might want a bigger one in the expansion or something like that.