i knew the wiggles CDs down to the microseconds between songs. never missed a beat
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Sometimes I look at the relationship I have with my 12yo, and think about the relationship we had 3, 4, 5 years ago, and I feel sad.
And then I look at the relationship I have with my 9yo and worry that we will be in the same place in another couple years, and I feel more sadness.
I know it’s very normal for our kids to grow up and away from us, but it’s a loss to be processed.
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they come back, it may be a few years, but they come back
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I hope so. My relationship with my own parents was never good, and puberty made it much worse, and we are still very distant now. I won’t do what they did, and I hope for a better outcome, but I do worry that someday my kids will feel about me what I feel about my parents, and that’s crushing to consider.
I’ve become a fan of the fruits and vegetables song
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My relationship with my Dad was basically great from 0 to 12 then it gradually fell to a low at 18 where it stayed until around 21 and then from about age 24 it has been the highest ever (low dictated by academics…)
Similar cycle with my mom but different shape/ages
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yeah, no. If you show love and support for your kids, even when they turn into little shits, you won’t ruin the relationship. Your awareness alone gives you a huge advantage over whatever you grew up through. Constant criticism will ruin a relationship. Discipline is still a parental job.
But, pick your battles - blue hair grows out. Save the battles for bigger things. Talk to them like an adult, don’t belittle, don’t harp over issues, but set proper boundaries
I feel you know what to do and it is the parents who don’t worry I worry about
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Mini-T2 is in Physician Assistant school. I thought we, as actuarians, studied a lot. PA students study…and that’s it! I am very impressed she can do that.
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I’ve heard it is brutal.
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Oldest chid is 2 semesters from being done with a 10 semester (straight thru, no summers off) Doctor of Nursing Practice program while working full time. On the job she typically trains the new hires and has nursing students shadow her as well. She saw my puny FSA studying and said “Hold my beer”. Probably should go in the brag on my kids thread.
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mine requested a facetime with us last night. her first birthday at college and she missed us. so it’s different but still good!
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I watched Inside Out on the plane this afternoon and got some feels too. Good to know you’re still human and not just an automaton. Let it flow!
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I don’t think enough dads realize that 95% of his responsibility goes away when his first child is allowed to drive
my responsibilties increased, my time committment decreased
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My older son is participating in his middle school’s production of Romeo and Juliet. He is on the stage crew, so I don’t feel bad saying this: it’s awful. I dislike Shakespeare, but this is just bad. Lots of kids don’t have mics, lots of them are talking too loudly into theirs, or too quietly, or slurring their words. They’re preteens so I don’t expect greatness out of them, but it’s torture sitting through this. Just had intermission though, about to start act 3.
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Oof… I’ve definitely seen much more polished junior high productions! One of my girlfriends is a middle school music teacher and I’ve sat through a number of her productions… none had those issues.
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son and his fiance were in the area to adopt their 2nd rescue greayhound. They got Babe (f) about a 8 months ago. babe never raced, but had a number on her ear.
Last night we welcomed Boo Boo (m), who is 3 and just finished a successful (with wins, apparently) racing season in Tijuana. His reward is a retirement in (checks notes…) Fargo ND! He was a huge sweetie when he was in our home for an hour, interacting gently with Babe and my 10 yrold Cavalier.
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[assumptions are plenty but unstated]
Fiancé has one e like male
Fiancée has two e’s like female.
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learned that today
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