TIL!
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I watched a documentary made by a woman who was groomed by her high school teacher and eventually had a ārelationshipā with him.
And I realized at some point, holy shit, I was being groomed by my high school creative writing and English teacher. He would write me handwritten notes about how I was special and a good writer and blah blah blahā¦he always had so many girls in his classroom, his TAās were always girls, and he coached girls soccer.
Nothing ever happened with it, fortunately, beyond the inappropriate letters and some deep conversations between us.
He was arrested a few years after I graduated for an āinappropriate sexual relationship with a studentā a few years BEFORE he came to teach at my school. I often wonder if he ever assaulted or raped any other girls, those things often come out when a person is convicted of such things, and I havenāt heard of anything. But I think the desire was there for him, demonstrated by his behaviors, and perhaps he just somehow controlled himself from acting and it was the chase that excited him.
Heās been out of prison for a while. Easy to track, heās a sex offender. I wonder what will become of the rest of his life.
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This is a realization I have had before, but it never seems to stick. Like somehow I canāt wrap my ahead around the fact that this is a thing that happened to me that I completely normalized and continue to find a way to normalize. Itās so bizarre.
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yuck. thatās a lot to unpack. not sure it deserves being normalized, but im not here to tell you what to think or feel.
my HS had similar I guess, but it was priests and an all guys HS. at the time we sure as heck made light of a lot of it that we didnāt know but suspected. when stuff got revealed laterā¦it was decidedly less funny. I was never in line to be a victim from what i remember.
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My take was that this is not a conscious decision on NAs part. I think itās more of a defense mechanism.
Yikes NA. Glad it didnāt get very far in your case. I hope the number of girls he went after was small. I mean one is too many, but since we know it was more than one, I hope it wasnāt very many.
A guy who took me to homecoming one year in HS was arrested a few years back for having child pornography. He was a middle school teacher. Professed his innocence but I never figured out what happened at the trial. It was all over the news when he was arrested. I never would have suspected him of being a creepy perv but who knows. I hope the right verdict was reached at the trial.
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Itās unnerving. I heard a couple teachers from my HS faced similar charges. One I believedāhe was smarmy but I wasnāt his type. I never liked him bc he tried to put me in a lower level math class than I tested into (as a transfer) and he put me in a higher level English class than my scores suggested. (Altho I did fine.) Classic assumption from the 80ās: girls are good at English, not math. He was a girls tennis or track coach (maybe both?) besides being a counselor.
The other I didnāt believe. He was the best PE teacher I ever had bc he actually taught the rules of various games. He also got stuck with the consumer ed class they started requiring my senior year. He did his best to teach those kids how to balance a checkbook. Football coach and not necessarily close to a bunch of girls.
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Random advice: When you are on speaker phone, and you press āMuteā to say something to your spouse, make sure you actually are on mute.
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Colonoscopy prep has started.
Not for me, oh god, no. For my husband. And it seems terrible. AND we only have one bathroom.
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My heart goes out to Mr. NA. 
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Yes, but also everyone sharing a bathroom with Mr NA.
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My GI doc told me I should start doing a colonoscopy every 5 years 
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Boo!
Iām thinking 48, 60, 72, the end. But Iām low risk.
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Iām high risk as my mother died from colorectal cancer. So far, i havenāt had any warning signs.
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The other day I gave my classes a take-home quiz and told them they could use whatever resources they had available. Obviously, most of them used each other as resources, so I got a lot of pretty much identical answers, which is fine - I told them they could do it.
The first question was āGive the definition of a parallelogramā (the quiz basically walked through a proof that the diagonals of a parallelogram bisect each other). As I was grading I noticed that an awful lot of the answers started with āA 2-10 figure thatā¦ā. It took me a while until I realized that someone had started their answer with āA 2-D figureā¦ā, had bad handwriting, somone copied it wrong, and then it went on from there.
I just laughed when I figure it out. You would think that they would at least think a little bit about the answer before writing it down, but apparently not. Whichever one of them came up with the actual answers that they all copied did all right (80%, but I was grading very generously). They should have copied from one of the students that got 100% though. That would have been a better idea.
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What grade/age is this?
Sophomores mostly.
The honors classes are mostly freshmen, but I donāt remember seeing any 2-10s in theirs.
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the village got me through this last year. gummie bears (not the red ones of course!), mtn dew, and chicken (bone) broth gave me enough sustenance to not feel that bad.
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sounds like theyāre doing as expected on their ID-10-T tests.
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