It looks like itâs hibernating. You probably could have climbed up, reached in, pulled it out to see what it was, then put it back and climbed back down without a problem.
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Canât find a good gif quickly, but think Ahnold in Predator.
I am in the waiting area at the dentist. They have a coffee bar with a Keurig machine here. That always struck me as bizarre. I enjoy coffee, but who wants a cup right before they go poking around in your mouth?
Is there something wrong with me if I just fundamentally donât like âstuffâ?
Jaspessâs love language is âtokens of affection.â So she loves getting people gifts that have meaning, like if she sees something funny in a store that she thinks somebody would like, sheâll get it and then give it as a gift. Especially for holidays, the idea of adding something to a wish list if I think I might like it.
But âreceiving thingsâ has never really been one of my love languages. Growing up with a chaotic mom, holidays were always forced, so Iâve come to perceive gift exchanging as an exercise in uselessness for adults. But also more generally, if something doesnât serve a specific purpose, I tend to perceive it as useless and/or a waste of money. A good example is Hallmark ornaments, which her brother and brother-in-law are obsessed over. I can see someone with collecting things as a hobby being excited about things like that, but to me, things like that that are just kind of there once you buy them are useless.
So once in a while I end up hurting Jaspessâs feelings without meaning to when Iâm not as excited about âstuffâ as she is. Or when I actually do want something but I have to wait to get it because I might end up with it later if I put it on a list, and I see that as an illogical thing to do.
Like, is there a way to respect her desire to once in a while get me something meaningful while maintaining that âthingsâ simply donât excite me that much? How do I balance this?
I struggle with gifts. I donât like receiving gifts that I donât care for or need. I can appreciate there was some thought but all I see is the giver wasted money and now I have to figure out what to do with the unwanted gift.
Iâm mostly the same. Not good at giving or receiving gifts.
i like eating and drinking with people (or without). âstuffâ drives me crazy.
When I gift a quilt, this is always the fear in the back of my mind, that my gift is really an imposition or obligation.
Pretty similar at my house. I do like some things, but Iâm at the point where I pretty much own 99% of what I want. My wife also likes to give gifts, and she tends to favor quantity over quality, so I often wind up with trinkets and the like.
In the moment I express appreciation because Iâm happy that she went out of her way to make me happy. When itâs not gift giving time Iâve expressed my desire for fewer gifts, or experiences (or a gift to the Human Fund!), but itâs just not her nature.
So I donât know. It doesnât bother me anymore because my wife is amazing and I know she is really trying.
Should I get transitions/photochromic lenses when I get my next pair of glasses?
I had transitions a few years back and they were not very good at transitioning. They took a long time to change. Also, they were not very good at fighting glare.
No, I hate transitions. They donât (or at least didnât when I had them) work in the car, which is where I need them most. I just bought a couple pairs of prescription sunglasses that I keep in places I most likely need them; one for each car, and one for my purse.
My maternal grandmother was a gift-giver as well. Iâd see her about once a year . . . and each time, sheâd have several small, stupid-type gifts for my brother and I that usually made us laugh a bit. Weâd make the effort to âenjoyâ the stuff while she was with us; but found a way to âloseâ it in the month or two after she left.
But she somehow believed that we were perpetually young children. She would regularly get us stuff that would be appropriate for a 6 year old (think games for ages 6-9) when we were teens and young adults.
Should I have stayed up past midnight last night, given today is a 12-hour day?
Add me to the camp of anti-transition supporters.
There are sunglasses available that are designed to go over regular glasses. Or do as NerdAlerts does and have an additional pair in places youâre most likely to need them.
I currently have prescription sunglasses, and will always want a pair for driving at a minimum. My current prescription still feels good. I have 2 older pairs of sunglasses: one prescription is pretty good, and one is pretty dated but will work in a pinch (that emergency pair stays in the sunglass holder in my car).