Loooong text messages all day consisting of
1.) what she’s doing (crying, praying, visiting friends I do not know)
2.) asking me to bring her over my homebrew (I am NOT a waiter)
3.) tells me about her dead husband and tries to compare me to him
4.) “throwing you kisses, did you catch them”?
And when I don’t reply, and I run into her, she’ll bring up each and every text.
Oh, she’ll catch me chopping wood or painting stuff and tell me I’m not doing it right.
Regardless of the answer to the age question… the attention is obviously unwanted.
The direct approach, which is best, is to just come right out and say that she’s making you uncomfortable. I’d say that if she is within 30 years of the same age you could lead with you’re not interested in being anything more than her neighbor. That might be weird to say if she’s a lot older.
The indirect approach is to start talking about other women so that she gets the idea you’re not interested in her. This could backfire and result in her doubling down though.
I take it you were friendly with her & her husband before he passed? She knows about the home brew and has your phone number, so there’s obviously some rapport…
I’ve been working, eating lunch, and watching this thread waiting for your response. You’re acting just like my ex when he’d ask me questions and I’d want clarification but he never gave it to me. If you don’t want to post publicly, we could just have a private chat (please bring beer).
65+, She’s my neighbor, I am the neighbor who can move heavy shit.
Her husband died the day I moved in. I didn’t meet him.
She gave me some furniture as well (kitchen table and chairs, large mirror). I didn’t have anything. I also told her that if she needs help moving stuff I can make myself available. Being neighborly! She’s moved to FL but often comes back.
YES!! She’s probably treating me like she treated her husband and her son (who lives in FL and I get the idea that he wants nothing to do with her)