(ETA just reread the question and in the past 6 mos my answer is no. Itâs been 20 years.)
Does it count if I have been asked to âsharpen my pencilâ?
Letâs just say that in the past inappropriate things were said and I didnât realize how awful and sexist those things were until many years later. And the perpetrators are no longer at this company. And if I had complained they would have said I was making a big deal over nothing.
There is one time I should have said something and didnât.
Thankfully the culture has changed for the better. I canât imagine being disrespected in that way these days, and neither do I feel I need to worry about my younger colleagues.
Might need to clarify this statement.
Does this mean, âHey, letâs be more exact with those estimates/assumptions/etc.â?
Or, âHey, letâs look professional. No smudge marks. Make sure those numbers have some âpopâ to themâ?
Or, âOK, no more guessing, letâs do some actual math nowâ?
Or, âHey, you are dressing like shit. Put some attention into your outfitsâ?
Um, I donât see why a woman would be told this. Man? Sure, âsharpen up that stiff thing in your drawers, cuz we goin to town, right here on the desk!â
/cougar-talk
Itâs more, âThese rates are too high so you must have done something wrong.â Said by sales managers to a lower level actuary who didnât choose the expense assumptions
ETA: at that moment I donât think gender was an issue.
Teasing is always denigrating, but in a playful manner. If you are not the type that likes to play, ask the person to stop, IN PRIVATE! Making a public deal about it makes you the party pooper. I know people like this, so they donât get invited to lunch with the gang, where lots of teasing will be done.
Sometimes teasers like to take and give, so if youâre in the mood, give back. âOh yeah? Well, I SLEPT WITH YOUR MOTHER!â
Sometimes they donât. So donât give back.
Lastly, youâre replaceable. Mainly, you are not so special and needed that you get to make the rules. Iâll blame your parents and society for giving you that idea.
Oh, did I type that out loud?
Iâd resent the implication that I am incompetent. But, it also allows me to waste a whole day checking my work, writing documentation about every used cell that proves I was right (or, I find a mistake).
Always keep a sharpened pencil nearby. Then, hold it as if you are about to stab them with it, assuming they are close enough by (damned WTF ruins the effect). Ice pick could also work, but you donât want get all Sharon Stoney about it.