Sometimes I’ll encounter a woman and find out that she’s mean. And then I subsequently find out she’s married. And then I think to myself, man it must suck for that husband.
Unless she’s nicer to her husband, then maybe it makes sense. Otherwise that guy probably just loves abuse. Are they nicer to their husbands? Or do their husbands just have no self-respect?
But “mean” is such a vague and ambiguous term, so without some specific examples of what is meant by “mean”, there is really no way to really discuss the topic.
A lot of mean girls are really queen bees and are sort of selective about whom they are mean to. They are manipulative as heck. Their husbands often don’t realize that…
People who are adept at gaslighting others will seem very nice but are in fact very un-nice. Lookin’ at you person-who-may-or-may-not-have-given-up-on-stalking-me.
Or, a lot of people have really shitty marriages.
My younger sister is 100% Karen. her husband, poor guy. they have a shitty marriage I’m sure, even though her husband is nice enough. He just puts up with it for some reason beyond me.