And I suppose you also think George Clooney is more attractive than Kevin James?!
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Obviously.
But for example here are the Peopleâs sexiest man of the year for the last 10 years-
Chris Evans - I would have thought a solid 8
Paul Rudd - didnât think he was there, maybe a low 7 high 6
Michael B Jordan - yeah, I see why he won. Probably a 10.
John Legend - Donât see it at all. Would have said a 5/6.
Idris Elba - Around a 8-9
Blake Shelton - 6
Dwayne Johnson - Similar to Chris Evans, 8ish
David Beckham - get it, would have put him at the top too. 10
Chris Hemsworth - get it, 9-10
Adam Levine - get it, 9-10
So while there are some obvious ones that I very much understand, there are some rated as âthe sexiest man of the yearâ that I look at and have no idea why they were picked. So itâs confusing.
I donât think itâs as confusing as you think.
I donât think Paul Rudd is cute either, but I know people who have him as their #1 sex idol.
I think weâre talking about generality here. Thereâs going to be disagreement on basically every single person.
But you and I should agree onâŚmaybe 7/10 people we consider hot. And when itâs in a context of relativity, it should be even easier.
Fair. I guess similar to views on attractiveness of women and disagreement there.
I know that if I were to lose weight and put on some muscle it would improve my looks. I donât need to know where I am on the scale now or where exactly I would be afterwards to know that it would be higher.
Like MA - I have no clue on hair or clothes. I donât personally see them making that much of a difference, but weâve already established that I donât really know what makes a difference anyway.
I have no doubt that I could be taught how to recognize attractiveness in guys. I could probably put in some effort and come up with my own system. Iâve just never had a need or desire to put in any effort there.
I could tell a 10 from a 1. I could probably get within about 3 points (10 v 7, 8 v 5, etc). I donât think I could do much finer grades than that though.
There isnt just one set score for every person. Its based on opinion. I dont see how being sexually attracted or not means you lose the ability to think a person is prettier than another person
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It doesnât. That was the point of the story.
BTW - I donât remember the context completely. It might have been something about a âcrushâ or âsomeone I would consider to marryâ or something like that instead of just âattractivenessâ.
I didnt get your point about not being able to tell 10 vs 9. Thats entirely based on opinion.
Basically, I have 4 categories: Ugly, Below Average, Above Average, Model/Movie Heartthrob-esque.
I donât think I can do any ranking more granular than that. For the most part, the âbelowâ and âaboveâ average guys bleed together, so I might not even be able to make that distinction very well.
The main thing is - I donât care how relatively good-looking different guys are. Itâs not something I put much thought into at all.
Iâd use the analogy of noticing subtle color differences. If a person has a name for a bunch of subtly different colors, and is in the practice of noticing them, then the color differences will be obvious. Without the vocabulary and practice, they will all look the same.
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I almost wrote something about your Kevin James crush but I refrained. Yes, I find Clooney more attractive.
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Well women are hardly unanimous in their views either. See: NerdAlert / Kevin James.
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the worshipping of george clooney puts him down a few points for me. itâs annoying.
Heart, for potential cat fight.
I donât think I care how relatively good-looking any groups of people are as I go about my day. But that doesnât disrupt my ability to give an opinion when asked. I have an opinion regardless.
It seems like straight guys (like you) go out of their way to say that they donât have an opinion on the looks of other guys.
Thereâs no objective 6 from an objective 4. Every rating is subjective. But to say you donât even have an opinion is just weird. At the very least, you can say âthey look about the same to meâ.
Given what MA and you have said so far, it seems like you guys do have an opinion. But somehow youâve convinced yourselves that you donât.
I donât see how saying how attractive a person is outside of sexual attraction is much different than saying how pretty a painting is or a house or whatever. itâs still something you can access.
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When about 80-90% of guys fit into this categoryâŚ
Iâve admitted that I âcouldâ have an opinion if I bothered to put any care or effort into it. Itâs just not at all important to me.
Itâs just something I donât consciously think about / notice 90% of the time. If asked I can recall and judge- I like the color analogy. I do consciously notice how strong other men are upon seeing them though- thatâs usually the first thing I consciously notice about a man. Whereas the first thing I consciously notice about a woman is her attractiveness.