again, this is a weird thing to admit.
Because it sounds like you put around the same level of effort into it as most people. I don’t just walk around putting numbers on everyone. I’m sure some people do (college girls and guys, maybe, but even then, I think they’re mostly looking for people who they’d consider to be way above average).
That’s what gays do! Body is like 90% of someone’s attractiveness.
There is some background stuff going on with women and I’ll occasionally get a “wow, she’s hot” pop into my head. That has never happened with guys.
I am way more likely to think “wow this person is hot” towards a girl than a guy.
Women are just more interesting to look at.
there’s certainly a lot more variation in how women present themselves.
That’s true, and it’s mostly a choice.
I may have told this story before. A lesbian friend sent me to a lesbian play she had something to do with. It was a fable. The main character was a beautiful princess who lived in the land of the patriarchy, and was destined to marry. But she was rescued by the brave women of the island of lesbians. And she lived happily ever after.
But what was really striking was that at the beginning she was drop dead gorgeous. And after embracing her lesbian rescuers, she looked plain. If you want to do numbers, she went from a 9 to a 4. In a 5 minute costume change.
Its like looking at suv’s. Theyre everywhere. Theyre just suvs. I suppose i could stop and look at the different suvs and point out some that i like better than others, but i.dont really like suvs, i.dont pay any attention to them, and even if i did form an opinion on what suv looks better than others, its still a big meh because its still primarily an suv. And id be forcing it to even have an opinion. And i dont have an opinion on suvs because i dont pay any attention to them.
that’s fine and all… but you yourself are an suv in this scenario.
I just can’t imagine you don’t have an opinion of yourself, especially because you want to get attractive women, and women like attractive men, at least when you were young. So at one point in your life, you must have had some opinion on what men ought to look like to get girls.
Nope,. just an suv. Ive no idea how women find men attractive. And cant be bothered to think it through.
Just accept it. Some men just have zero thought or opinion on attractiveness of other men.
hey, if getting women is that easy, then props to you.
it’s very competitive in the gay world.
Probably
Seen on a lesbian discussion forum: I’m not a transbian, I’m a < insert picture of Dick van Dyke >
This is an interesting theory… I’ll try it some time.
that doesn’t work if the person is of a different ethnicity
Why not?
Well, I’m presuming. I can already judge beauty in a vacuum, so I don’t need that “bridge”. But I presume that if you have to use the “do I wanna look like that person” rule, you at least need to it to be somewhat relatable.
Being a different race seems a little too far removed.
I think we had this talk before.
It’s pretty much a foreign language.
I have asked women about it before. Not to get laid more often-- (though maybe that point would have stuck when I was younger.) But just because I wanted to know some basic facts about the world. I think the only thing I learned was to look at jawlines (simple enough). But I think I would need to study it to know more. Or at least look in a mirror once in a while.
Sometimes, when watching a show/movie, I will ask my wife if a guy is attractive or supposed to be attractive. As it can be a really important part.
Interestingly, those of you who are oblivious all seem to have ended up married, so I can get that you can not give a shit about your looks now that you’ve been married
But that simply isn’t the case for most young people who want to date.
All I can say is, good job on getting married!
Tinder life and Instagram life can be rough!
I would notice a guy’s physique, more than facial good looks. I can admit a guy is good looking, but don’t really think about it unless brought up in discussion.
I don’t get some guys who are supposed to be attractive, i believe those with rugged looks.
The, do i want to look like that person, concept is something that doesn’t work for me.
Do I want to be built like him? Do i want to shape my beard like his?, maybe.
When I dated, I was on okcupid, decades ago.
And I usually wooed women through words.
I did try to stay in shape (a little), but I wonder if it would have been easier to dress well, and cut my hair, or something.