Well, I have to watch my tendencies towards low-income blue collar bullshit on this stuff. We want him to stay as long as he wants to, rent-free, and feel comfortable. And we want him to find the right career, even if that takes some time.
But, all of that comes with the expectation that he’s moving forward, not just coasting, or as of right now, moving backwards and pointing at random stuff. So we’ll have a convo around that.
He could help around the house more, even just by stopping all the clutter. Spouse and I keep a tidy organized house, and with the two of them, every spot is a spot to throw your s*** down on for three days. But, I won’t even mention that though it drives me and my spouse nuts. His GF does the same thing, but in her defence, she makes a full restuarant-level meal 2-3 times a week and that’s more than enough for me to say she’s contributing more than her share. Last night we had some lamb dish that involved searing then in the oven with spices and vegetables plus some fancy rice. It was gooooood :).
I’m conflicted between having been trained on tendencies like your father, and my specific decision NOT to be like that. Kids stay here as long as they need to, and they’re welcomed, and we help them launch their career and get through school without debt. But yeah, the mofo could cut the lawn once in a while lol.