Alright, confession time. Part of the reason I vanished from the AO is that for the last 6 years or so, I’ve been struggling quite a bit with my identity, and exactly who I was meant to be. Everything fiber in my soul fought against 12 years of Catholic education and my parents/relations attitudes towards LGBTQ folks.
When the pandemic hit, it slowed life down for me so I could really think through some decisions and I finally made a decision in June that I was going to live the life I was meant to, and have publicly come out as transgender.
Part of the struggle was that if you google ‘transgender actuary’ — there is literally nothing out there. No stories of successfully transitioning while in this profession. No discussions of any pitfalls or issues, or even the process of making the changes needed with the societies. And I get that for many people, they try to go stealth and not call attention to themselves, especially in a traditional conservative industry like insurance. But part of my promise to myself that if I did this was that I’d try to be open about it, and that brings us to the point of this post.
If there is anyone reading this that has the same kind of internal struggles and fears that I did, or even if you just need someone to chat that has started down this journey – please feel free to private message me or post questions here. I’m happy to answer what I can, and if it makes one person feel more comfortable about being their authentic self, I’ll consider this a success.
For everyone else, if you have questions for me — please feel free too. I may not answer everything, but I’ll answer what I can.