My daughter was 24 or 25 when she finally got a license. It worried me, because it really came to limit what she could do - particularly where she could work, but also everything else.
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We use to go to the local park after lunch and play sports until it got dark. Or run around with friends on bikes by ourselves. People were completely ok with this.
These days you have to deal with busybodies everywhere who will report you to social services if you let your child go to the park with their friends to play catch.
Kids donât gain any real independence when they are constantly watched and told what to do.
I have always felt this became a huge negative when it came to child development.
My husband gave the girls âboundariesâ for riding their bikes in our neighborhood. Literal streets they werenât supposed to cross without asking. But D1 claims she went to the library alone (across a busy street) at 8yo and her dad never knew she was gone. And that she did this regularly.
D2 claims she and her bestie went to 7-11 on their own, but they were probably more like 11 or 12 and they were together and 7-11 wasnât as far as the library. We probably would have let her if she askedâespecially with a friendâbut I donât think the other parents would have agreed. 7-11 was closer than the library!
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We forced our 11 and 13 y.o. kids to go outside yesterday afternoon. They had both been cooped up inside all day and needed to burn off some energy. They are both responsible enough to come home before dark, plus there are cell phones now so the constant contact makes it less worrisome.
I was also out goofing off every day after school and it was never an issue. Different expectations nowadays.
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Boss: Before this afternoonâs meeting I need you to do A.
Me: Ok, you got it.
Me later: OK, I think I have A completed, so I should be set for the meeting.
Boss: Great!
Boss at meeting: How did B and C go?
Me: What now? You asked me to do A. I did A.
Boss: Oh, you only did A but not B and C?
Me: Uh, no.
Boss: Oh, you have to do all three. What about D?
Me: No
Boss: Iâm not sure if you need to do D. Letâs start with B and C.
Iâm working on B and C waiting for Boss to tell me tomorrow that I needed to do D as well.
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Obviously, if it comes to that, you should report him to the ABCD.
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I was at Walmart tonight (at this point I already feel like I need to defend going there - itâs one of the places my son likes to go to, so there) and thought the breakdown of people there was unusual - there seemed to be more Japanese in the store than usual. Now that I think of it, I donât think I"ve ever seen anyone Japanese in the store before. When we left the store, there was a large crowd of the Japanese just outside the door and itâs clear theyâre Japanese Japanese, not the Japanese Americans Iâd assumed. As we pass by, a tour bus pulls up and they all get in. So ⌠it turns out itâs a tour experiencing American culture by going to a suburban Walmart?
Ah, it dawns on me that there is an obvious tour stop about 2 miles away and directly down the road from that particular store. Maybe they just had some time to kill.
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i was on a US Parks bus tour and we stopped at a Walmart ( or similar) for a bathroom break, and to buy lunch, snacks and drink
wouldnât surprise me. probably also hitting up a Cracker Barrel and/or Golden Corral at least once on the trip.
Gotta see the Rednecks in their native habitat!!!
Yeah, Iâm with your wife here. I would have put this in Annoyed Thoughts.
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Yes. Its now rapidly approaching annoyed at home.
Have moved it.
Not as embarrassing as Donald Trump, but up there
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I feel nervy. Not nervous (emotional), nervy (physical). Like my body is actively holding back from shaking uncontrollably everywhere.
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Amazon vine just recommended a flashlight mount for a shotgun. Which is fine and legal exceptâŚ
Canât use a shotgun for defence, thatâs illegal. And canât hunt after dark. There no situation I can think of that I could actually use this thatâs legal. The unit is legal, using it, not.
So, useless.
You canât use a shotgun for defense? Like, an (illegally) armed criminal (illegally) breaks into your house and is walking up your stairs brandishing a gun. Youâre not allowed to pull out a shotgun and shoot him?
That is correct. It prevents a lot of arguments. Civilized people donât shoot other people.
Iâm pretty sure it also means our bad guys are a lot less likely to show up with guns. If I had a home invasion, first thought would not be that they came with guns.
You can of course shoot someone. It just means one of the first thing police are going to do is charge you.
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Sure, but if there is an armed invader in your house then you are definitionally not dealing with a civilized person. Are you saying that self-defense is uncivilized?
I guess it depends on why they were breaking in to your house in the first place. To steal your TV⌠sure. If their purpose in invading the home is to kill you and/or your wife then Iâd think a gun might be something theyâd want.
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No, Iâm saying weâre not such an effed up country that Iâm laying awake at night worried about armed invaders.
Weâve had two people rattling things around here in the last few years. One rifled through my truck and stole some stuff. The other was trying the garage door, unsuccessfully. Iâm sure neither were armed, and shooting them seems at least a little bit unnecessary.
And itâs not like Canadians donât have guns. Because they do. More than you likely think.
Besides, if you have an armed invader (and you donât, because canada) and you shoot them youâve already broken the law. Safe storage laws in Canada mean you canât just keep a gun by your bedside table. If youâre following the laws, you donât have access to guns while someoneâs walking through your house.
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