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My favorite Sinbad story is where he travels to some island, and picks up a sexy island wife on the side, but she randomly gets sick and dies, and -then- he discovers local custom is that spouses are buried together…immediately.
I’m not sure what I’m going to do about my mom.
Thankfully, there was no double headstone with my dad, but the plot they got has granddad, grandma, and my dad there so far… and I don’t know how much more of the family is supposed to go in there.
I’m thinking my ma & stepdad will be cremated and go at their church in a different city, but who knows? I don’t think my dad’s family will mind… my stepdad has been married to my ma far longer than my dad was…
I’ll add a +1 to living spouse names engraved on tombstones being common - my grandparents and my wife’s grandparents did this.
I don’t really care what happens to my body after I die, maybe I’m too young for that. Whatever my spouse if she’s still alive or kids would need I guess. If my wife were to go first I would probably get some picture frame montage with pictures throughout our life together rather than want to hang onto her ashes in an urn or something. And gravesites feel so permanent if I wanted to move to a different state. We’ll see how I feel when I get older.
Here’s what I currently think would be ideal when I die:
Take whatever parts of me might still be useful and use them to benefit others. Take the rest of me and cremate it. Take what’s left of my money and go to Molokini. Have a wonderful time. Take me out on the water and leave me there.
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Pretty sure you can’t dump ashes right at Molikini, but Pacific Ocean not too far from Molokini is certainly doable.
You aren’t supposed to be within (I think) 3 miles of shore unless you have permission, and for a tourist attraction like Molokini, I’m sure that gets a fresh 3 mile perimeter, and your family would be unlikely to get permission. You’d hit Kahoolawe on your way to 3 miles from Molokini… but maybe 4 miles S of Molokini or even 3 miles WNW should be golden, and probably no one would be watching or care if they were a little closer than that but far enough from the actual crater that no one noticed what was going on.
I haven’t given much thought to what I’d want to happen to my body. I guess whatever is the most eco-friendly. I’m not sure whether that’s cremation or freeze-drying. Either one is fine by me. Or heck, maybe I’ll donate my body to the local medical school like grandma did. Except I’m an organ donor… hmmm, I guess you can’t do both.
Whatever… I’m not worried about it.
When I was (even) younger, I used to hang out with friends in the large cemetery in my hometown. We were always entertained by stones like this, especially when the spouse with a DOD had died in like 1905 or something, and we’d make up stories, like “Poor Jonathan lived to be 42, but his widow Wilhelmina is still roaming the world at 137.”
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I don’t know for sure, but I’d guess it’s more psychological than anything, because a lot of people might be grieved or creeped out by watching their loved one’s body be dumped in the ground, & it might be easier for mourners to see a box instead. 
I mean… wrap the body up in a sheet or a body bag or something, sure. You could even make it fancy if that’s your thing.
But a fancy bag vs a fancy box? Meh.
Also, nearly all of the graveside services I’ve been to recently you don’t actually watch the body go into the dirt. The officiant says something like “and now we will entrust the interment to the good people at ABC Cemetery. Go in peace.” Or something like that.
Heck, for all I know the cemetery people are taking the caskets and reusing them while burying people in either something cheaper or nothing at all. How would you know?
I’m sure my kids/grandkids will figure something out. I was saying what I’d find ideal.
(Not everything needs an in depth analyzed rebuttal.)
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No idea the actual rate of this but I was told this is so people don’t jump in after them out of grief…
More likely it’s probably a waste of the workers time at the cemetery to be waiting for the precise moment when the group is ready
In the UK you lease the spot apparently, so my grandfather has something like a 50 year lease and it’s a big deal to my mom that things are sorted to make the future payments
Yeah, that seems more likely!
Nomination for “New Poster of the Month” badge.
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I was trying to think of a good response, but yours is better than anything I would’ve come up with. 
I guess “hey, you’re right” and “your idea sounds lovely” are out of the question.
Are you new here?
ETA: @Marcie had a better response.
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Nope. I’m not at all surprised at the responses. I should be more mindful of what I share.