I ordered McDonald’s through the app, including two McFlurries. Got to the drive thru and was told the ice cream machine was McBroken. Of course.
So I asked for a refund, and was told they can’t provide one. They could give me a soda instead, or maybe a milkshake, or I could file a complaint on the app to ask for a refund through corporate. I said fine, I’ll take two milkshakes. I would have said I’d take it up with corporate, but the shakes were for my kids and I didn’t want to deal with the whining of coming home empty handed.
I still wanted to be able to file a complaint (not for any refund, just out of principle), because the store can and should take menu items off the app when they are out. Turns out you CANNOT file a complaint through the app, McD’s forces you to dispute with the individual stores. I was absolutely lied to. And I’m glad I didn’t try to go the refund route, because I’d be SOL for that $7.50.
Next time they try to pull this, I’m going to park and go inside the store and have it out with them until they admit they’re lazy POS’s.
Perhaps, give them the benefit of the doubt - that they might just be ignorant as fuck.
Also, in a case like this, where I’m really pissed off about it, I make a note to dispute the charge (partial - just the amount of the part they screwed up) on my credit card. For fast food, it’s usually an automatic and permanent credit.
Chargeback. Simple explanation - asked store for refund, store said I must go through the app, tried with the app, they said I must go through the store.
They’ll credit you back, done. It does somewhat muddy the ethics if you requested an alternate, I don’t know how I’d handle that. I suppose I’d agree that a partial chargeback is warranted but it’s kind of weird at that point.
So MIL was trying to get SIL to try sips of everybody’s alcohol, which led to her sticking the spoon into alcohol (so the remnant alcohol clung to it) and making her try it. Partner and I shared a look, but SIL and her husband are a competent unit of people and can make their own stand where they wish. SIL ordered her steak “at least at 145 degrees whatever that makes it” (medium) and MIL told her she should have it medium-rare because it’s not like she’ll get sick from it, MIL had medium-rare steak all the time while pregnant.
That’s where SIL took a stand, saying that it’s her body and she’d rather not have rare steak for a few months than risk a miscarriage. FIL brought up cold cut lunchmeat which we’d touched on briefly earlier and ranted about “Oh, so if you have a cold piece of meat it’s suddenly super dangerous but if you heat it up, then it’s fine? Yeah sure, that makes sense. Your mom and I both ate sandwiches all the time. People nowadays are just too scared of everything.”
SIL said “Well I’m glad that worked out for you, but I don’t want to miscarry.” I thought that would be the end of it. I suppose being anti-choice it makes sense that they don’t understand “my body, my choice”, but both MIL and FIL started on her again. Saying in their day it was fine to have a glass of wine.
Bit of background - MIL is a lifelong tobacco smoker, which she hid from her kids for years after grandpa died of smoking-caused lung cancer. MIL promised she was done forever, but lied. She’s always been a liar. I don’t believe for a moment that she didn’t smoke during pregnancy. Maybe she smoked less.
So I smiled and looked right at MIL, chimed in “well, it wasn’t long ago that it was considered healthy to smoke during pregnancy too. Obviously we know now how bad that is, and even if someone might think SIL is being too cautious, it seems worth it for the baby. So I feel like we should just drop it. I mean, a medium steak and not getting drunk isn’t the end of the world.”
Thankfully that ended it, since the table was clearly 4v2 in favor of “shut the fuck up”
That one was from FIL, and yes. He’s loud and fairly dumb with strong opinions. I’ve learned that dealing with him is nearly impossible, and loudly announcing we are changing the subject is easiest. Several times I’ve brought up something like, “Okay, but we are all here together at Thanksgiving and I feel like we can have a good time without talking about abortion. Everybody else feel the same way? Good, could you pass the cranberries?”
Sounds unpleasant. Have you tried setting boundaries with the in laws? Like you are going to cut the visit short in the future if they do this sort of thing? Seems like you might have the support of the SIL and would be easier to establish before grandkids.
I admit, I didn’t follow many of the “rules” about pregnancy when I was with child. I ate sushi and cold cuts and soft cheese, occasionally drank alcohol (never more than a single serving, and usually less). But I NEVER would tell someone else that they should ease up on what they choose to do in pregnancy. It’s a major dick move. MYOB!
I know my spouse and they and I won’t stand for BS. We’ve had some serious talks lately and come to a wonderful conclusion:
The in-laws, their parents, are not required to be part of our life.
When they visit, they do not get to make snide comments about the giant LGBTQ+ flag flying over our front door. They do not get to comment on queer aspects of our life unless they want to be nice about it. They don’t get to make snarky comments about us being leftist. There will not be accessible guns when we have a child in their home.
These are non-negotiable, and their presence in our lives is negotiable. Receiving their inheritance one day would be nice as they are very well-off. However, I’ll throw that away immediately for my spouse’s well-being. And our future kid.
We’re adopting rather than being pregnant, but if they were asking us to try alcohol while pregnant the answer would simply be, no. They wouldn’t be sticking alcohol-covered spoons into mouths.
It’s good you are on the same page with that. I guess it’s really how much you want to manage the situation to keep them part of it. It will be easier to set limits even at their house before the grandkids come along.
True true, but while we have a pretty solid date to begin the adoption process, it’s going to be a good year, potentially two until it’s a thing. I’m glad we’re getting a sneak preview with SIL’s baby first.
Yeah, I’d kind of think it was more likely this, as I’ve run into similar things in the past, where they decide to give a cash refund (I had paid in cash) on something they don’t have, but don’t have the slightest idea how to figure out how much cash that should be. They’ve more than once resorted to “Is it OK if I just give you back $xxx?”. Lazy doesn’t seem to be the issue, as they’ll spend all day running down the menu to suggest alternatives I might want instead.
McRevelation dawned on me when I read this. There was a McD near me that for months had no shakes. That one ended up closing and it just dawned on me that the lack of shakes must have been either that they knew they already knew they were going to close or they were hurting for money and couldn’t afford the repairs/replacement.
monday i will be back in the office after like 8 work days away. i’ve deleted some emails and caught up somewhere in the middle to affirm there were no programs on fire. but monday’s front 4 hours will be rough catching up
