How long have you known you are trans?
I’ve known since I was about 13 or 14 for sure that I was supposed to be a girl. I prayed every night to wake up as a girl, which I found out much later was NOT normal for cis boys. shrug . I didn’t even know being trans was a option until college though, thanks to my Catholic education. There were probably signs before that – but that’s the first time I remember actively questioning why I wasn’t a girl.
What changed that led to transitioning now?
I was really close to transitioning in college, but the Defense of Marriage Act passed, and the college counselor was transphobic, so I went back into my shell. I may have transitioned in my late 20s, but I met my wife and decided to try to keep faking it. It worked well until my wife was pregnant with our second child at the same time my brother died. His death broken down the emotional walls I had, and the realization that I would never be the person that was pregnant and able to nurse my child cracked the facade. I cried in bed every night for months after my wife fell asleep from that pain.
Do you regret not transitioning sooner?
No, not really. I have 2 amazing kids, that wouldn’t have been possible if I transitioned in college or 20s. I might regret not doing it sooner after the birth of my 2nd child, but it just took me a long time to work up the courage to talk to my wife about it. I was scared of losing my family. Fortunately, it turns out my wife is bi, and it’s all worked out amazingly.
Are you taking hormones?
Yep. My current dosages are 6 mg of Estradiol per day (3 x 2mg), 200 mg of Spironolactone. (2 x100 mg), and 100mg of progesterone (1 time a day, 10 days a month). The Estradiol is the feminizing hormone, and the Spiro is a testosterone blocker that has a ton of side effects that I hate (dizziness when standing up, peeing all the time, and digestive issues being the biggest). Progesterone is another feminizing hormone that helps with breast growth and fat redistribution.
What are the most surprising effects of the hormones?
I’ve shrunk by 1" in height and lost 1.5 shoe sizes (some of that second one might be related to weight loss though, I’m down 100 lbs since the start of the pandemic.)
Have you had surgeries? Are you going to?
First, unless the trans person says it’s ok, never actually ask this. But I’m willing to share some details. I’m going to spoiler this answer so people can choose if they want the details.
I haven’t had any yet, though I do have approval and consult scheduled for an orchiectomy. That’ll let me get off the Spironolactone medication mentioned above. The other surgeries I’m very likely to have are a breast augmentation and gender confirmation surgery. Those are probably not until 2023 or 2024 though, due to the insurance requirements.
What are all these acronyms that I see sometimes?
AMAB = assigned male at birth
AFAB = assigned female at birth
AGAB = assigned gender at birth
HRT = Hormone Replacement Therapy
FFS = Facial Feminization Surgery
BA = Breast Augmentation
GCS = Gender Confirmation Surgery (sometimes still GRS or SRS, gender/sex reassignment surgery)
NB/enby = Non-binary person
GF = gender fluid
Anything else? Let me know in the comments and I’ll answer them.