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I donāt know that.
If i were 20, Iād probably identify as non-binary, because Iāve never felt like Iām female. Well, briefly after giving birth, maybe. But i donāt feel like Iām a man trapped in a female body, either. I kinda donāt get gender, to be honest.
When i was 20, non-binary wasnāt an option, and Iāve been seen as female by others all my life, and Iām mostly okay with that. So i suppose Iām sticking with āfemaleā. But itās not like i feel strongly.
Other people have different internal experiences. My daughter is female. She has a strong internal sense of being a woman. She prefers to read stories and watch movies with female protagonists because otherwise she doesnāt really get into the story. Me? I identify with the protagonist. Male, female, robot.
Anyway, i agree with the folks at the start. Ask her what she means by that. I donāt think thereās a single, well-understood meaning.
Hereās another thought, a bit misogynistic, but a funny clip from a great actor
He is a great actor, although I was hoping itād be funnier than a dumb blond joke 
I agree with you actually.
In the absence of external (to my body) context, I donāt think I would know if Iām male or female, or perhaps care to know.
Iād know that Iām attracted to male, of course. I had feelings about my male classmates since kindergarten. Part of the confusion for me as a kid was why I was having these feelings, and other male kids didnāt seem to show the same attraction towards other male kids. I donāt think it was until like 5th or 6th grade that I knew something was off and that I wasnāt behaving like the other male kids.
But I still didnāt feel like I was female.
I wonder if the confusion here is between sex and gender. Weāre told that sex is biological and gender is mental/emotional. But usually āfemale/maleā is referring to biological sex rather than gender identity and āwoman/manā is more for gender identity (at least in how I hear the terms used).
Is there a difference between having a female brain vs a womanās brain? Like could a single person have a brain that was male/woman or female/man?
I think a lot of the confusion here is that the OP said āHere is a 2 word phrase that I am taking completely out of context from someoneās linked in ā can you explain with 0 context what they meant?ā
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Plus the OP refused to opine themselves but is willing to critique anyone elseās opinion on the matter.
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Iām not sure how significant this is, though, because itās not clear you can know anything, or construct any image of yourself as a person, without external context.
I tend to think of gender identity as being like air that we all breathe. Evidently, as long as you can breath it ok, you donāt even notice it.
Thatās very true.
The only difference is that I clearly didnāt breathe okay, as something did feel off. When I learned why it was that I felt off (sexual orientation), I identified it as that, and not gender dysphoria.
There are days that I wish it was accepted that makeup was acceptable for boys, but I didnāt once think to myself itās because I was a girl.
So, maybe thereās something in me that was telling me that I was a boy, despite all these āgirly thingsā I do or like.
It means wanting to have boobs and finding male partās ugly.
If you know the meaning of the phrase, then you ought to describe it.
This thread is obviously a huge waste of time because you arenāt using your own words.
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Understanding sexual orientation differences seems to take a much smaller leap in imagination. I think itās because at least most of us remember our own āawakeningā of sexual desire. In other words, it is not an air we have always breathed. And it is not always present even after awakened.
So as an example of how my brain sometimes doesnāt work, about a month ago at the very beginning of my transition I knew that I wanted to do HRT, and I knew that on HRT that you get boobs, but somehow didnāt connect the dots and realize that this meant that I will have boobs. I was taking a walk around a lake when it hit me, and now will always remember exactly where I was when I realized that I am going to have boobs. It is so exciting to think that this time next year I will have my own, real boobs and also be most of the way done with having my facial hair removed.
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Thatās pretty funny. 
Yes, exactly, itās like intentionally trying to not understand the world.
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Admittedly this sounds about as much gay as it does female.