Since i got married young, and neither of us had a lot, and we were moving and needed new bank accounts anyway, no, it wasn’t an extra step.
And it means that we both own half of all our retained income without needing to think about it. I don’t have to remember that he picked up the bill last time we ate out, because we always pay the bill from our account.
The big advantage of separate finances is that the irresponsible spouse can’t fritter everything away when the other one isn’t looking. (Nor can the dishonest one clean out the account and move to a nation without an extradition treaty…) Also, if you are older and both already own a lot of stuff (including investments) you don’t have to think about how to fairly combine everything, or which stocks you want to jointly own, or…
The big advantage of joint finances is if one spouse leaves the workforce to rear children (or for any other reason) that spouse doesn’t constantly feel beholden to the other, and need to ask every time they want to pay for something. All the family’s money is theirs, and they can go grocery shopping and pay the mortgage out of their (jointly owned) funds.
I think if the spice have very different earnings they need to have all the family’s spending money joint, at a minimum, or the spouse who earns less is constantly disadvantaged.
That’s realistic for couples who don’t intend to rear children. But child-rearing takes an enormous amount of effort, and it often makes sense for one person to specialize in child-rearing while the other specializes in bringing in income. My husband was a SAHD for several years, and it would have been really weird and awkward if the money had all been “mine”.
Disagree. My husband stays home with our kids. If he had to come ask me for money every time he wanted to go grocery shopping or buy something for himself or the kids, it would really be demeaning to him. It reinforces that my money is MY money, not his without asking, and his work raising our kids is not “real” work.
that’s literally how some people get paid? and yeah, it would be just an inconvenience, if it’s something I agreed to going into it. If it doesn’t work for you, break it off.