Probably the ones she pissed off were the ones who would have declined. Which is better? Well, I guess pissed off but brought a gift works out better for the couple than declined and didn’t send a gift?
Huh, feeding guests catered food is expensive. The financial wins are the people who say they can’t come, but send a gift anyway, and the close relatives who give very valuable gifts. I feel like most of the distant relatives and friends are kinda break-even.
Same. I don’t have any friends with nut/food allergies either
My wife however has a bunch of friends with egg/nut/food allergies
Hanging out with them is such a pain in the sack. We are always worried, trying to avoid dietary landmines
I have friends with all kinds of dietary restrictions. No Gluten, no meat, no onions, no corn, no chicken, kosher, vegan, no cinnamon, low fodmap, …
When i do a big party, i enjoy the challenge of making food that’s safe for everyone. (No one item, often, but enough food in enough variety for each person.) But when I’m just hanging out, it’s usually not my problem. Friend with dietary restrictions deal with their own issues.
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I of course have to cook halal for reasonably large parties when I take students camping for 3-4 day trips. That’s actually nbd beyond knowing what’s allowed and what’s not. It’s not overly restrictive once I got over the ‘no bacon for breakfast, no deli meat for lunch’. The biggest impact I’ve had was an egg/nut allergy. That was a pain, everying I wanted to make had one of the two things in it. Even bread for cryin’ out loud. Some of the meals didn’t taste quite as good.
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A guy who used to hang out with us had a deadly allergy to nightshades. (Potato, tomato, pepper, eggplant) That was challenging.
You say that like it’s a bad thing.
Less people less gifts.
Average cost of wedding $33k, average number of guests 116-123.
Your wife must be my long-lost twin sister. Very fussy eater + allergies. I cannot stand the taste of almost all cooked veggie. Onions and peppers make me quite ill.
We went to a vegan wedding. I tried lots of stuff. Ate no more than a tiny forkful beside the vegan brownies, which were delicious. And yes, I bought food after the wedding. For that wedding, the problem wasn’t that everything was vegan, but that everything was the same style. Cooked vegetable dishes. A garden salad with dressing on the side would have been greatly appreciated. To me, when planning an event, you plan a menu with variety.
When I was a kid, if something I hated was served for dinner, I wouldn’t eat it. My Mom tried the “Well, that’s what’s for dinner. Eat it or be hungry” thing. I didn’t eat. Same thing the next day if it was again something I didn’t like. I feel confident I would have gone long enough to become sick, if my mother hadn’t given in first and start including stuff I did like with the meals I hated.
My SIL is allergic to nightshades and is celiac, lactose intolerant and a vegetarian. When he and his family lived with us for a year we gave up trying to feed the same food to everyone: he often had to find something else to supplement our offerings.
With respect to the specific issue being discussed, I see no reason why the hosts shouldn’t just serve vegan food if they feel strongly about veganism. Anyone who would bring their own food is very rude.
I will be hosting a reception for 120 folks in London next month after my daughter’s civil wedding ceremony. I am leaving the menu to her but it undoubtedly will be vegetarian (but not vegan) as she feels strongly about that. Everyone eats vegetables so WTH. I would be more concerned serving meat dishes that might offend someone.
What if vegans wanted to bring their own food for a meat reception?
If that is acceptable, then i ask, why should not meateaters bring meat for themselves?
Because in all my many years on earth I have yet to meet a human who eats exclusively meat.
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Pretty much this. Vegetarians and often vegans can make due with portions of the menu at a typical wedding. Vegan or vegetarian weddings aren’t typically serving food that non-vegetarians/vegans are unable to eat.
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Me either. However I saw an interview with Al Michaels who claimed to have never eaten a vegetable. I can’t comprehend that.
No one may bring any food to our reception. If they are unhappy with the food choices they can nip out for sustenance. There will be an open bar so I expect that will keep my British guests happy in any event.
People are so strange about wedding culture. No matter what a couple does, guests will be pissed off, and vice versa.
As they say, an invitation is not a summons. And a wedding also isn’t only about two people, it’s about communities. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to this question, but the key is to assume good intent from all sides and be gracious.
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that’s bc he’s full of shit and projecting nonsense. nothing to comprehend beyond that
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I think it boils down to “my party my rules.”
You don’t like what’s served? Go get something to eat, come back satiated. You can also eat before or eat after.
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