Yeah. If I’m drinking I want to drink 5-8 of them. I don’t want 1 of a drink.
I found myself noticing special occasions worth celebrating every day when this was my criteria.
I doubt I will ever let myself have another glass of alcohol in my life.
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That why “special” was in quotes.
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I don’t mean to say AA is bad, just if it doesn’t work for you it’s good to know there are other options
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Yes, this is a problem.
My wife has a friend who drank too much (a bottle of wine every day, and not good stuff), stopped, relapsed, and has now stopped again.
During the first stoppage, she started experimenting with a glass here or there. And, she preferred to call drinkers “normies,” as if not drinking was not normal. That doesn’t seem to be a healthy attitude.
Then she had to stop again.
Trouble is, her husband owns a bar. That is a challenge. She would work there on weekends, but just too much temptation.
Yup. Just quoting her. I’d say our lives are pretty much driven by disgust.
She also said that her therapist said that if she did lapse, she’d basically just be in a better position to try again, which comforted her. She has a tendency to take an all-or-nothing view of things, which then results in choosing nothing, so I’m very glad her therapist was able to convince her otherwise.
Alcohol doesn’t do either 1 (make social occasions more enjoyable) or 2 (ease bad feelings) for me. I’m not sure if that makes me lucky or unlucky. It does help counteract too much caffeine keeping me up at the end of the day (or too much screentime, etc.), so that is my only, rare, motivation for drinking.
I have a relative who drinks for reason 2 and as they’re a somewhat mean drunk, it’s not very pleasant to be around them at the time. Which I’m usually forced to be anyway. I didn’t grow up in a drinking culture so I’m not sure what people do when they’re sitting around the table and suddenly someone starts tossing insults and complaints out because they’ve started drinking.
I am at a wedding with champagne flutes on the table. Only an ounce or so, and I debated toasting with them, but I decided to not risk it and just used water instead.
I think there is a situation where I would drink a sip of wine again, but I think it would have to be in a communion situation or something where someone was going to be personally upset if I didn’t participate.
I know it’s only a sip, but I don’t need to flirt with that line today, at an event with an open bar.
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Nothing wrong with that at all and another guest will probably be happy to drink yours.
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someone placing soemthing on a table is not an obligation passed to you. do what works for you. all good
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We served champagne and sparkling cider at our wedding, because my husband is a teetotaler. In total, we went through a lot more bottles of martignelli sparkling cider than the expensive champagne my father bought because he was trying to one-up the friends who’d just hosted another wedding. Imho, once your get past, “it’s wine, AND it’s bubbly”, champagne doesn’t actually taste so great.
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In Europe they take their sparkling water seriously and there’s quite a variation of styles (often to do with bubble size, I believe). It’s another alternative to sparkling alcohol.
I don’t do alcohol OR sugar, so sparkling water would have been a nice alternative. But no one asked why I was toasting with water (and I was at a table with mostly people I already knew, who know I don’t drink), and the bar had Diet Coke, so I was good for the evening.
Champagne is gross. I’ll drink some to be polite but would never choose it.
People who love champagne will snicker, but I always serve Asti Spumante (Martini & Rossi). It’s sweeter than most champagne, and personally I think it’s delicious. Everyone in my family loves it. It’s served at most special occasions.
I also enjoy Dom Perignon, but not enough to pay for it. Most other champagne falls somewhere between not that great and tolerable.
I have a couple of bottles of sparkling wine in the garage which I had bought for mimosas at Christmas bunch, but were never drank. They’ll probably be out there for a while. I pretty much only drink it when toasting.
Most sparkling wines are too sweet for my taste. I might enjoy a sip or 2, but I don’t want a full glass. I prefer a bone dry sparkler, which are not too common.
I couldn’t find snicker, so smirk is the best I can do. Nothing wrong with Spumanre though, it’s been around forever.
I would drink Prosecco over champagne when I drank. I liked it for new years.
Then when I was pregnant and getting married we had a few different options for toasting, champagne, Prosecco, moscato (for my sister, who was marrying us and requested it), and then Fre champagne, which is alcohol-free. Most people preferred the Fre to the alcoholic champagne, surprisingly. I really liked that flavor. Too much sugar though.
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Good article about some of the psychology behind drinking.
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