Seems like we’re comparing apples and oranges.
I’ve never joined my current church. I’m pretty involved… sing in the choir, volunteer in the nursery, attend services most weeks, and the VITA site is at the church (although that’s through the IRS and you do not need to be affiliated with the church to volunteer although well over half are). But I never joined. I don’t love the pastor. There’s nothing that makes me feel like “yes, this is where I belong”… I just gave up on finding anything better.
My church in my last city… that just felt right. My biggest complaint was literally that the senior pastor was a bit too militant about keeping the service to precisely 60 minutes and not a single minute more. (No, we are not going to cut a minute out of the music we prepared. If we go over, we go over.)
This church only feels ok. So I never joined. So I guess I’d be a “no” on the first and a “yes” on the second. 