# Alyssa's FAQ **URL:** \ **Category:** Transgender Discussion Group\ **Created:** [October 29, 2021, 9:18pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408 "2021-10-29T21:18:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/spacelobster/32/38216_2.png) [@SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/u/SpaceLobster)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2022, 11:53pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/121 "2022-01-11T23:53:43Z")
So how are you feeling? ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2022, 11:56pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/122 "2022-01-11T23:56:09Z")
I was pretty close to fully recovered by a couple of days after Christmas — in pretty good shape now other than working off the 10 lbs I put on from 2 weeks of not leaving the house lol. ---
**Author:** ![SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/spacelobster/32/38216_2.png) [@SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/u/SpaceLobster)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2022, 11:57pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/123 "2022-01-11T23:57:57Z")
But better, mentally? Seems like structurally things have changed quite a bit. I thought perhaps you’d be relieved or lighter or something. ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2022, 12:06am UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/124 "2022-01-12T00:06:01Z")
The mental part is a work in progress. The hormonal swings were wild for 3 weeks or so, and that seems to be settling down finally. It’s great not suffering the consequences of the anti-androgen medications anymore, and knowing my body isn’t fighting my identity any more is awesome. But dysphoria is a many headed snake, and there has been some rough points, including losing a friend over being trans and because “I’m too political” because I posted an article about the stupid British author and why I don’t spend money on the wizard franchise anymore. It’s it getting better, I think, and I’m starting to research my breast augmentation (which I think I’m going to try to squeeze in this year instead of waiting until after GCS) and have I have to start the paperwork for the gender confirmation surgery soon, as it has a 14-15 month lead time right now, and due to work responsibilities and recovery time the best time for me to do it is May-June. Hopefully as I keep seeing the changes I want, the mental part stabilizes a bit more. ---
**Author:** ![SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/spacelobster/32/38216_2.png) [@SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/u/SpaceLobster)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2022, 2:24am UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/125 "2022-01-13T02:24:23Z")
UWaterloo reddit sub posted some stuff about trans folks (the school has an lgbtq+ club that I think is pretty active), I responded with a suggestion to follow you on twitter. Which led me to scrolling through your twitter feed. Are you coming to Canada this year? ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2022, 2:27am UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/126 "2022-01-13T02:27:20Z")
Hey thanks! We were hoping to come to Hamilton for the US-Canada soccer match on the 30th, but that’s feeling unlikely. Other than that, just the normal visit to my in-laws in the Eastern Townships. ---
**Author:** ![SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/spacelobster/32/38216_2.png) [@SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/u/SpaceLobster)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2022, 2:33am UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/127 "2022-01-13T02:33:59Z")
Well if that changes, dm me. ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 2:32pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/128 "2022-01-26T14:32:28Z")
I have a consultation scheduled for March 11th for my breast augmentation. I’m interested to see how this goes – I’m like 90% sure my voice passed to I don’t think the office realized I’m transs ---
**Author:** ![Lucy](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/lucy/32/8802_2.png) [@Lucy](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Lucy)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 3:17pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/129 "2022-01-26T15:17:23Z")
This is a weird thing to say, and i hope it’s not offensive, but you “sound” more feminine in print, too, imo. I can’t say why, and maybe it’s just me. ---
**Author:** ![John.S.Mill](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/john.s.mill/32/9771_2.png) [@John.S.Mill](https://community.goactuary.com/u/John.S.Mill)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 3:19pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/130 "2022-01-26T15:19:14Z")
I’m curious what these voice lessons are like. I’ve always hated my voice, can voice lessons help? ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 4:35pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/131 "2022-01-26T16:35:12Z")
It’s not just you, and thank you. 🙂 It’s been a bit of a conscious effort to choose my written words more carefully, although it is becoming a little more natural. I still find myself editing my thoughts a little more thoroughly that I used to,. ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 4:36pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/132 "2022-01-26T16:36:42Z")
My lessons were specifically gender affirming, and so focused on pitch, resonance, and other minor details (softening my ds and ks for example). But I’m pretty sure a trained voice coach could focus on any quality of your voice you hate. ---
**Author:** ![SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/spacelobster/32/38216_2.png) [@SpaceLobster](https://community.goactuary.com/u/SpaceLobster)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 9:07pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/133 "2022-01-26T21:07:59Z")
> [@Lucy](#): > > I can’t say why, and maybe it’s just me. Nope. Not just you, and not just since the phsyical transitioning. I’m not going to figure out why I have preconceptions like that, but I certainly do. There’s a bunch of posters I assume are of a specific gender, but I don’t actually know. ---
**Author:** ![John.S.Mill](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/john.s.mill/32/9771_2.png) [@John.S.Mill](https://community.goactuary.com/u/John.S.Mill)\ **Post date:** [January 26, 2022, 10:34pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/134 "2022-01-26T22:34:16Z")
the mansplain gives it away probably ---
**Author:** ![NormalDan](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/normaldan/32/1013_2.png) [@NormalDan](https://community.goactuary.com/u/NormalDan)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2022, 2:29pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/135 "2022-01-27T14:29:00Z")
I wonder if trans men work on more actively mansplaining ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2022, 10:19pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/136 "2022-03-02T22:19:39Z")
> [@Mountainhawk](#): > > I have a consultation scheduled for March 11th for my breast augmentation. I’m interested to see how this goes – I’m like 90% sure my voice passed to I don’t think the office realized I’m transs This is next Friday, but everything going on has me feeling so defeated and frightened, I barely want to go. I’m sure I will, and maybe on the day of I’ll work up some excitement about it because my lack of breasts has been a major source of dysphoria since HS, but we’ll see. It’s so hard to be excited for a future that may not even exist. ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2022, 7:40pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/137 "2022-03-04T19:40:40Z")
Whelp – unexpected Friday pick-me-up as my surgeon’s office just called and despite it usually being a 4 month wait to get a GCS consultation, this girl has one set up for April 7th. ---
**Author:** ![Celalta](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/celalta/32/302_2.png) [@Celalta](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Celalta)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2022, 2:20pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/138 "2022-03-07T14:20:41Z")
Very happy for you! 🥰 ---
**Author:** ![Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/mountainhawk/32/82290_2.png) [@Mountainhawk](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Mountainhawk)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2022, 7:40pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/139 "2022-03-11T19:40:44Z")
Busy next few months: April 1st - Alyssa’s first mammogram April 7th - GCS Consultation May 16 - Pre-op meeting with BA surgeon June 6 – Surgery date! ---
**Author:** ![Lucy](https://community.goactuary.com/user_avatar/community.goactuary.com/lucy/32/8802_2.png) [@Lucy](https://community.goactuary.com/u/Lucy)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2022, 1:03pm UTC](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408/140 "2022-03-12T13:03:47Z")
Imagine looking forward to a mammogram. 😉 They’ve gotten better, apparently the machine now has a safety built in so it can’t crush you beyond some safe amount of pressure. And there are even non-crushing 3D imaging ones, now, although i haven’t gone to a place that has them, yet. Welcome to the club, though. 😀 I just had a mammogram last week. Not to bad. [Previous page](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408.md?page=6) [Next page](https://community.goactuary.com/t/alyssas-faq/4408.md?page=8)